Iris_chapter 6

Shasky always said in his class:

"People don't remember what they've been told - they remember what they feel!!!"

It goes back to emotions that influence and make a story stick to your head.....(like Head-On....hehe)


Three quotes of this chapter that stuck out to me:

"Understanding your own story prepares you to understand the story of others and the biases (yours and theirs) that unnecessarily impede your ability to influence." (p135)

In my opinion, being able to switch perspectives in your head is very important. By "simulating" the other person's set of mind you have a better idea what that person would "jump on", where hooks and angles are and what reasoning is behind the choices the person makes. It also enables you to see the weak aspects or flaws of your own story and how to improve (or cover) them.


"Touching others without a willingness to be touched leaves you isolated and alone. The joy of life blends giving and receiving. Any healthy model of influence must incorporate that blend."
(p140)
I think to convince people you have to be "authentic" which you can only be if you "share" from yourself with others. Another aspect is that by revealing something from your life your to ambition to convince and influence receives a neat pretty veil. People will feel that you have given something in first place before expecting them to change . It makes you look more "generous" and have good intentions.


And last but not least:

"The stories you tell can bring out the best in people." (p148)

I think this is a good motto for our project. We will bring out the best in these kids!!! yeah!