Iris chapter 8

Well...indeed listening properly is something we have forgotten and that needs to be trained again. For me it was quite interesting to read about that people don't listen because they are actually selfish..."If I don"t get attention then why should I give you mine"
.....honestly: we don't even listen to OURSELVES. How can we be able to listen to others? We push ourselves past any limits of physical and mental bearance. We swallow nutritionless food not paying attention to the signs (screams) our body sends us. We swallow a bad working climate pushing away the burned out feeling. We swallow the rules of a competitive environment evaluating things by their efficiency or the benefit they may bring us and not questioning the system itself. We scream for attention from all the world not realizing that we give (the right) attention (at the right time to the right aspect) to ourselves.
Listening means perceiving - fully perceiving. Being with no urge to respond, advice, judge, argue etc....